During pregnancy the focus naturally lies upon Mum and Baby. After Pregnancy it on shifts to Baby and then Mum. The Partner, the carer, the support usually comes in third place. This makes complete sense. However their role and effort can often be overlooked.

This is why I wanted to interview my partner, Burzin Rustumji, and ask him about his views and experiences during the pregnancies, births and baby journeys we’ve shared together.

He shares his views very openly and honestly, and talk about things like:

• How to have those difficult conversations around pregnancy and children. You’ll hear how he had to express he wasn´t ready to have children
• How he viewed his role during my pregnancies and birth
• He opens up about his experience during our miscarriage
• How the roles be distributed during pregnancy. Is it actually possible to share the load in a 50-50 way?
• Some of the preparation we did for each birth
• His experience and memory of each births and how a hospital birth compares to a home birth.
• Managing the emotions and a new baby with a very limited Paternity leave.
• The famous ‘’Papa Dag’’ in The Netherlands and taking unpaid leave to be with your baby.
• The highs and lows of the first day out with your baby alone
• How we have balanced between juggling two professional careers and make drastic changes in our personal life
• His tips on how a couple can survive the journey of pregnancy and birth

Can you relate to any of this? I’d love to know! I hope you enjoyed this episode and you can always drop me an email to share your thoughts or comments with me.